Life is oxymoronic.
No, seriously. Dis is wat I realized while flipping through my cousin sister’s considerable stack of gossip magazines. One of them read like this,
“Boys like shy, delicate girls, even though they hang out with more boisterous ones. They see timidity as an essentially feminine quality. Also, they like females with average looks and achievements, because no guy ever likes to feel inferior….So just smile shyly, play hard to get, use subtle makeup blah blah blah.”
The nest one said, “Contrary to popular belief, a guy never fancies a shy miss, really. All guys lyk the females who are more likely to agree to date them, dance with them etc. So if you’re sitting and dimpling in the corner, your Prince mite just be choosing his date from the gang of popular, outgoing girls. Guys really dig ambition, guts and brains in a girl.”
Yeah, ok. So I was so not confused, rite? I mean, I knt really blame the magazines, cmon. Life itself throws everyday examples at me……As a pressurized, impulsive adolescent with a penchant for writing, I find it easy to see these oxomoronic situations everyday. If a girl is insecure, shes looked down upon and generally pitied. But if shes confident and sure of herself, she’s labeled a bitch with an attitude problem, among other not so nice things. If she shuns makeup, she’s plain; if she wears it, she’s a slut. If she slouches, shes a hunchback, if she walks erect, she’s a wannabe ramp model. If she reads a lot, she’s a nerd; if she doesn’t, shes an airhead. If she dates a guy, she’s usually desperate and needy; if she doesn’t she’s a Miss.Goody Two Shoes.
And the list goes on……
I mean, as girls in today’s world, we have a LOT to handle. The catfights, petty jealousies and backbiting are horrifyingly magnified by the crushing pressure to succeed academically, excel in sports and extracurriculars, get ‘in’ with the best gang, live up to some crazy definition of thin and handle life with great poise. All this while looking absolutely great, with perfect grooming, flawless complexion et al. Handle the peer pressure, stay good bt be cool, top the class, be skinny(kate moss is way too fat, btw) bt sumhow retain ur hair, get into a great college, date a hunk, bitch about everyone else bt still be diplomatic, buy the best brands, hang wid da coolest ppl bt be nice to all…….or even better…….design a poster to save the whales from being slaughtered for their blubber (all the while smearing on a lipstick containing the latter)……
With all this, I’ve come to a conclusion. Life IS oxymoronic! As my friend mentioned, it just has a way of complicating itself! No matter how hard you try or wat u do, ull still be wrong or pathetic. U’ll still be judged(uncharitably) unless ur in the role of the victim or the helpless, spineless coward or whatever(lyk Rhett Butler said, ppl jus find it easier to feel sry for ppl, than happy for them). Why bother?Just do ur own thing, chart ur own course, and if the world has a problem, hey its THEIR prob, not urs
Megs
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6 comments:
hey megs,
Great thought!!!!!!!!!
i thnk u hv been highly sarcastic in writing the blog. I thnk tht there are always 2 sides of the coin, its the way u c the world around.
i agree with what u say. but, according to me, the first thing one has to get right is that there is NO universal definition for success. for me, its only my definition that matters, n hw much success i achieve shall be measured solely by my premises. so, when u look at it frm this perspective, you shall see that even if a person conforms to all that society describes as successful(if such a unanimous opinion arises), he/she still is not entirely successful if his/her standards are different; if she is unahppy wid all that she is, or pretends to be! so there...
on the other hand, "if u conform to the definotion of society, u suk" hapns only if ur definition is diff frm tat of society.
if u dont conform to norns n so called established definitions of success, u need courage.
many succumb to it, they dont conform n r labeled losers n hoards of other names, n they start blving it, not realising tat its only their definition tat matters.
holy shit!!! straight outtta the heart megs..... rockin!
"If a girl is insecure, shes looked down upon and generally pitied. But if shes confident and sure of herself, she’s labeled a bitch with an attitude problem, among other not so nice things."
X marks the spot..... u couldnt be more right!
growing out of cliches is a cliche, unfortunately!
good read...but do make progress..and write even more real stuff!
and you dont need to read magazines to have an opinion abt wat the opp. sex wants!
who am i?..well i just bumped into ur blog..
i cudnt agree more!
@ vk- who da hell r u ..wealli? hmm y dont u tel uz wad da opposite sex wants or rather respects ..da point here is ,u bubblehead ,dat diz haznt jus cum down to bein a cliche
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